Letters to a Church Gone Astray
The old house church webpage )
For many years, on the
UpwardCall.net website we have been
house churches and have at times pointed others to a house
church in the
New Windsor, Maryland area. After
an incredibly sad experience I
must bring some things to light
that have happened for the scripture tells us to "speak the truth in
love "and "expose" the things done in the dark. It's also my hope that
those who have known the leader (Harry), might be able to
change through this.
very hesitant, yet the
extraordinary events warrant it.
Some of it may sound hard to believe were it not documented and
attested to by other witnesses. This
comes after much prayer and spending 2 years appealing to the
leader, including a Matthew 18:16 meeting with two other witnesses to
which Harry agreed to. Others have made appeals to no avail,
and therefore I can no longer refer brethren to this
congregation and must bring the following warning .
also related these
him privately, then publicly. There has
been a Mt.18 situation with him which is over and at this
point I believe it's my responsibility to " tell it to the
church ". Harry has broken off all dialog with me, as well as
with others who were attempting to speak to him about this matter.
put, In January of 2010,
Harry made serious
pronouncements /applied verses of public condemnation
against new members in the New Windsor
congregation,when they were not present.
He also said/wrote of them things like, they had "dark
looks on their faces , they "had Demonic grievances ", "had a
NiKolaitan spirit " were "false brothers ,”etc.
making careful inquiry, the
evidence shows Harry hadn't
specifically talked to them about these
had communicated no charges towards Harry or to the
church and they
"left quietly ". They had no idea of all that was
being said of them. Some others in the group went
along with the charges and voiced (an unbiblical posture) of
" I, believe Harry, I don't need to test it
also presided over the
handing out of a Sunday church
bulletin ( unbeknownst to those new member families
)with the charges.
others brought charges
and "damning reports
". Yet when I questioned them, they
admitted ,they hadn't actually talked to those families either about
these things, but they had
made reports to Harry. Thus by their own words, those
bringing accusations, inadvertently testified against
themselves that they where violating scripture.
barely knew the new
members, I then respectfully
objected to the process ( condemning brethren without a hearing
(Jn.7:51), not speaking privately first as Jesus commanded(Mt18.15 ),
not having 2 or 3 witness(Mt18:16) ,
etc. I cited many
other scriptures in composing my questions to Harry
in an open letter to the congregation on
2/25/10. I made no charges, only biblical
testing with questions and deep concern, as the
response, Harry immediately sent
out a letter (2/26/10 ) to the
whole congregation about me, not
intending for me
see it ,( as he admitted later ) and not responding at all to my
biblical questions. In his email, he laid out 5 very serious
charge , things
never said or brought to me privately.
He essentially repeated the initial
scenario/accusations he had done with those others, but
now brought accusations against me .
was shocked that a brother I
had a friendship with
for 10 years would send this out about me.
I pondered that God in his
amazing sovereignty allowed
me to see this email . Through it all, God in his amazing
grace has taught me to rejoice when slandered.
the way I would welcome anyone in
the body of Christ to read that
letter I sent,( and all my letters to the group, as well as the letters of others ) and judge for yourself
as to what it contains.
Harry didn't respond
to my private appeal
for to him to acknowledge his wrongdoing, I initiated
a Mt. 18 meeting , the results of which and the
correspondence shows Harry wouldn't/hasn't changed
in his stance. For the record, I asked Harry at the Mt. 18
meeting to show me "where in my letter were all the things he charged",
he couldn't point to one specific thing.
person, who had been with
the group for many
years was at the MT. 18 meeting. He has been a
witness that Harry hasn't repented He sent a
message to the congregation, after appealing privately to Harry over
many months. A quote
contained in that plea: " With utmost
love and sobriety I need to say that I believe Harry is in sin for
disobeying the command of Jesus Christ …"
who has known
Harry for a few years and been at various meetings
tried to fully investigate after the Mt 18 meeting. Some
of his similar findings he presented to the
group: "Harry was willing to go so far
... even to the point of causing the breaking off of fellowship with
",…( included the names of myself and others ).
For the record at least 12 people have been alienated from
that congregation in the last 4 years.
was all so
unnecessary. Jesus gave
us clear instructions how a church should operate, that if we think a
fellow member is doing wrong, we are to go to them and settle
matters privately. We are not
to talk amongst ourselves,assuming motives etc, speaking evil
of brethren and then go and make reports
to the leader. Its been over 3 years and
neither Harry , nor anyone else in the group has
answered this fundamental question,
"Which of you would want to be treated this way?"
These are the kind of practices that create divisions and strife that
can go on for years. Scripture warns us that it is
an unbridled tongue that sets off firestorms (James 3:6)
is so much more I could
say. I would also
welcome any leader in the local church area to fully investigate these
matters. Please pray for Harry and all those
involved. By the way, I care about Harry
and want God's best for him.
believe God the Father, in
his love and mercy is giving
Harry another opportunity to repent (as he does us all )
before the great Day of accountability before his Throne.